1. ACKNOWLEDGE THE PROBLEM. So how do you get rid of rejection? You first of all have to acknowledge the fact that you’re rejected, that is, you’re battling feelings and thoughts of rejection. You can’t deal with the problem if you don’t recognize there’s a problem. As long as you minimize the problem, or worse yet, refuse to admit you’ve got a problem, then you’re not going to be rid of the problem. Rejection will linger in your life as long as you allow it to linger. It’ll be a part of you as long as you coddle it and refuse to get rid of it. And this brings me to a second step in the cure for rejection.

2. YOU HAVE TO WANT TO BE FREE OF REJECTION. Unbelievably, some people don’t want to be free from rejection! In an absurd or insane way, they like being rejected and want to be rejected! Why is that? Because they relish the pity and attention they get from well-meaning people who try to help them get set free from rejection. People who battle rejection don’t necessarily love rejection: they don’t necessarily want to be rejected. What they want is to be accepted. They want to be the object of people’s time, care, concern, and help. When people give them that care and help they’re feeding the rejected person’s desire for acceptance and thus, unknowingly, strengthening the grip that rejection has in that person’s life. For many people who battle rejection, rejection is their ticket to acceptance. That’s why some people will not be freed from rejection. For them, rejection IS acceptance. 

As long as  you feel this way about rejection and acceptance you will not be freed from rejection no matter how long and how hard people try to help you. Rejection will be a lingering part of your life as long as you coddle it and refuse to let it go. THERE ARE OTHER WAYS TO GAIN ACCEPTANCE. WHEN YOU USE REJECTION TO GET ACCEPTED YOU’RE ONLY ASKING FOR REJECTION TO STAY PUT IN YOUR LIFE AND CONTINUE BEING THE MASTER AND TORMENTOR OF YOUR SOUL.

If you want to be free from rejection, if you want it gone and out of your life, then hallelujah you’re on the right track. It’s a good start. But don’t stop there.

Closely related to the desire to be free from rejection, you have to be willing to do whatever it takes to be free. As in many areas of life, people want things without having to work too hard or too long to get them. They want something for nothing. Or next-to-nothing.

That kind of mentality doesn’t work for rejection. Rejection is a warfare. And no warfare is ever won without blood, sweat, and tears. Freedom requires a fight. And you’ve got to be willing to fight for your freedom.

If you’re ready to fight and do what it takes to get set free from rejection, then take the next step.

3. GET READY TO FIGHT THE DEVIL OF REJECTION. As I pointed out earlier in the previous posts, rejection starts out as a feeling or thought. This is a natural part of being human and we all battle these feelings and thoughts. All of us do. Without exception. We’ve all been tempted to think we’re no good, nobody loves us, God doesn’t want us.

If we don’t deal with these feelings and thoughts, if we keep entertaining them and don’t nip them in the bud, we unwittingly open the door to demonic oppression. As I explained in the previous post, there are demonic spirits whose sole task in life is to get you to think and feel you’re rejected. To your unawares, they’re constantly talking to you, persuading you, convincing you. I can’t tell you exactly when the oppression takes place. Somewhere along the line, feelings become more than just human feelings. They become human feelings manipulated by demonic spirits and, at some definite point in time—to your unawares—you become a slave to these spirits.

It’s like a nicotine addiction. You start out with one cigarette, then it leads to another, then another. At first you have some control and you can decide when, or if, you’re going to smoke another cigarette. But, by and large, the more you smoke the more you want to smoke again. In time, you get to a point where desire becomes addiction and enslavement. Instead of being a casual smoker you are now a chain smoker.

It works the same way with demonic spirits of rejection. These spirits don’t come against you and control you against your will. It’s not like they overpower you and decide they’re going to control you for the duration. You hold the key to your soul. You control what thoughts you allow to enter your mind. You decide what kind of feelings you’re going to experience in your soul. Like cigarettes, the more you “inhale” the feelings and thoughts of rejection, the more you’re becoming addicted to rejection and you wake up one morning not realizing that the addiction to rejection has become full-blown enslavement or oppression by demonic spirits.

Persistent and longstanding feelings or thoughts of rejection, I’m saying, is a demonic spirit. If you’ve been battling long and hard against rejection, then a demonic spirit is involved and you’re going to have to do battle with that spirit.

One of the biggest hindrances that keeps Christians oppressed and enslaved to rejection is the belief that Christians can’t be oppressed by demons. Since they’re a Christian, they’re not oppressed. The continual presence and mastery that rejection has in their life is explained as a weakness or struggle, but not as a demon.

It’s not my purpose in this post to prove that Christians can be oppressed by demons. I’ve seen it happen. I’ve taken Christians through deliverance. I’ve seen demons manifesting in Christians. So I know what I’m talking about. And I’m not alone. There are gobs of Spirit-filled Christians throughout the world who’ve taken Christians through deliverance or who were themselves oppressed and subsequently delivered.

Many Christians believe that the Spirit of God cannot live in the same body with a demonic spirit. They believe that people can have only one spirit—either the Holy Spirit or a demonic spirit—living inside them. But, on a wider scale, our homes, our communities, our nation, our Earth, is the habitation of both the Spirit of God and demonic spirits. God by His Spirit lives on Earth, where demons also live. So what’s the difference between living in a body and living in the Earth? Do you see what I’m saying? If the Spirit of God can inhabit the Earth even though the Earth is chock full of demons, then why can’t the same thing apply to the human body?

Christ gave us the power to cast demons out (Matthew 10:8, Mark 16:17). He set the gift of the discerning of spirits in the church (1 Corinthians 12:10), which tells me that there are demonic spirits in the church.

If you want to believe that Christians can’t be oppressed by demons, you’re entitled to believe that. I don’t suggest you do. As long as you refuse to combat a demonic spirit working against you, or inside you, you’re not going to be free from rejection and I, among many others, will not be able to help you. The war will always rage on until you confront and defeat the enemy.

If you’re ready to concede that a demonic spirit is working against you, then you’re ready for the next step.

4. GO TO GOD IN PRAYER. The unbelief that keeps you from believing and receiving God’s love and forgiveness is a sin. It’s a rejection of His love and forgiveness. That’s why you need to go to God in prayer, repent for your unbelief, and ask Him to forgive you. Ask Him to give you the grace to believe that He really loves you, wants you, and forgives you.

5. FAITH, POWER, AND AUTHORITY OVER DEMONS. As a Christian God has given you authority over demons. You have the God-given power and authority to command the demons in Jesus’ Name (Matthew 10:8, Mark 16:17, Luke 10:19-20). When you use Jesus’ Name it’s like Jesus Himself is  present and He’s commanding these demons Himself. Just as demons obeyed Christ’s command and came out of oppressed people when He was here on the earth, so these same demons must obey you and do whatever you command them to do in Jesus’ Name.

Before you get freed from rejection you must believe you’ve got the upper hand over them: you’ve got to believe you have the power, right, and authority to command them and expect them to leave you alone in Jesus’ Name. If you don’t believe you’ve got power over the spirit of rejection, then that spirit isn’t going to leave you. Demons know when you’re believing and when you’re not. They’re not going to listen to you when you’re not listening to God, that is, when you’re not believing what God said about you having power over demons.

If you don’t believe you can command demons and tell them what to do, the first thing you need to do is believe. Faith comes before freedom or deliverance. Study the Scriptures I cited earlier. Read the New Testament and focus specifically on how demons obeyed Jesus and the apostles. And by the time you’re done reading from Matthew through the Book of Acts you should believe. Christ has already given you the power. You have it right now. You just need to believe it and use it in Jesus’ Name. Once you believe that you’ve got the power to command the spirit of rejection, you’re ready to command.

6. REBUKE THE SPIRIT OF REJECTION IN JESUS’ NAME. Before I command demons I like to open up in a word of prayer to God and thank Him for giving me the power and authority over demons. I ask our Heavenly Father for protection and deliverance.

I then speak directly to the demons involved. In this case, you’ll be speaking to a spirit of rejection. Speak to the spirit by name, rebuke him, and command him to come out of you or leave you alone in Jesus’ Name. Say something like this: Spirit of rejection, I rebuke you in Jesus’ Name and I command you to come out of me and leave me alone in Jesus’ Name. I no longer want you in my life. I’m kicking you out in Jesus’ Name. Jesus Christ sets me free from you and you must go in Jesus’ Name.

It’s as simple as that. It doesn’t take a marathon of time of get delivered and set free from demons. All it takes is a simple command of faith spoken in Jesus’ Name. And within moments you’ll be set free.

If you’d rather have someone pray for you and take you through deliverance, then find another believer who’s willing to do that for you. Above all, make sure the believer is filled with faith, is righteous and not enslaved to demons, and knows how to command demons effectively in Jesus’ Name.

Sometimes demons do resist at first. They’re testing your mettle to see if you really believe and expect them to go. If this happens, if you feel like nothing’s happened and the spirit of rejection hasn’t left you; just stand your ground, remind the spirit that you’ve got the power over him, and command him to leave you right now in Jesus’ Name. If you stand up to him, the demon will leave you and you’ll know it, you’ll feel it, and you’ll be free. Hallelujah for Christ’s power and deliverance! Be sure to thank the Lord for setting you free!

7. BE PREPARED TO FIGHT TO STAY FREE. Human beings can live out in the open or out in nature. But, let’s face it, even from the most ancient of times, our descendants made homes for themselves because homes were more comfortable and secure from the elements, the beasts of the field, and the enemy.

Demons are much the same way. They like homes to live in and the homes they like to live in are people. When a demon is cast out of a person that homeless demon doesn’t like being homeless. He’s going to want to find someone else to inhabit. More often than not, the cast out demon will come back to you and try to get back inside of you. Matthew 12:43-45 tells us what goes on after a person has been set free of demons. Read it for yourself. After reading it you’ll come to the realization that freedom is a fight to stay free. You’re free right now. But the spirit of rejection is probably coming back to try and oppress you once again. This is normal. Just be aware of it and be prepared to fight the spirit back.

So how do you fight to stay free?

  • Start out with faith. Believe and receive God’s love and forgiveness. Reading my post on THINKING ‘ABOUT ME might help you receive the reality of God’s endearing, unfailing love for you.
  • Cultivate a mindset of power and freedom. The spirit of rejection took control of you because you didn’t believe God’s Word. You believed what the devil told you. This is the mindset that got you oppressed and it’s a mindset that you mustn’t return to. You’ve got to cultivate a mindset that believes you’re loved, forgiven, and accepted by God. A mindset that believes you have the power to get set free from demons and stay free from demons. How do you cultivate this mindset? Say over and over again, “God loves me, God’s forgiven me.” Meditate on the many promises and comforts of Scripture, such as those that we’ve already read in this blog. Confess these promises. And refuse to entertain any thoughts that contradict God’s Word and promises.
  • When the spirit of rejection comes and talks to you, refuse to listen to, or entertain, any of his lies. Remember, they’re lies. These are the lies that got you in trouble and bondage to oppression in the first place. Don’t go that route again! No matter how good or convincing the devil sounds, refuse to listen to him and shut him up instead with the Word of God: There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1). God has made me accepted in the Beloved (Ephesians 1:6). God has forgiven all mine iniquities (Psalm 103:3). God loves me and He loves me with a great love (Ephesians 2:4). Counter the devil’s lies with Scriptures such as these and you will prevail against rejection, you will walk in victory, and the Lord’s peace and joy will return to your soul.
  • Wherever possible, don’t hang around people who don’t love or encourage you in the Lord. Negative people will drag you down. Remember, the devil works through people too and he’ll make sure there are people who cross your path who will try and make you feel like you’re so totally worthless and no good. Stay away from them. Find a good church to fellowship in and surround yourself with people who will edify and encourage you. Find good Christian friends who will take time to pray with you, pray for you, and help you walk in victory. Pray and ask the Lord to give you a friend and a church who can help you. This is one prayer that God will definitely answer!
  • Lastly, praise the Lord in song. Thank Him for what He’s done for you. Magnify His grace and love. Instead of looking at a past sin, look to Jesus’ shed blood on Calvary and bless Him for His love and forgiveness. Every time you’re tempted to think on past sins, praise God in song and prayer. Thank Him for ridding you of the demonic spirit that kept you rejected. As you praise Him the Lord will minister to you and fill you with the assurance of His love and forgiveness. May God bless you, dear saints of God, and keep you free from rejection.


  1. November 19, 2012 at 7:55 AM

    Very good.Thank you very much

  2. queenlorene said,

    December 15, 2012 at 9:12 PM

    I am being opressed by a different problem and I dont know how to stop it. I tried to get rid of it some time ago by a statement similar to the one you have in your blog, and for about 3 days it left me, but then came back stronger then ever. I am afraid to rebuke it again. Unfortunately, I am bipolar, and my mood problems dont help me remain resolved. And yes, I know this is an excuse.

    • gaylorddiaz said,

      December 17, 2012 at 8:48 AM

      Hi Queen Lorene. Unfortunately, anything demonic involves a warfare and the warfare can get really intense. So intense, in fact, that we can get to a point where we think the struggle or fight is not worth it. Thus, we give in and throw in the towel of surrender and defeat. Without knowing the specifics of your situation all I can do is pray. God is so good, Almighty, and I have every confidence that He will bring you through. If I can be of further help to you don’t hesitate to email me. Blessings on you and your blog.

  3. Nas said,

    June 14, 2013 at 2:13 PM

    Thanks to God for this blog that assist on how to fight the spirit of rejection. Iam experiencing the rejection spirit and i believe by end of this week i will be set free in Jesus name. My relationships had been failing and i claim back in Jesus name i need to get married this year. My job is taking long and prayer that in Jesus name i will get it before end of this wek

    • gaylorddiaz said,

      June 15, 2013 at 8:49 AM

      I’m glad the blog post was a help to you. Your Help is in the Name of the Lord and I’ll pray and believe with you that Jesus will set you free from rejection and cause you to know His total and unconditional love and acceptance. Prayers and blessings, Gaylord.

  4. Philasande said,

    October 5, 2013 at 10:05 AM

    I am also being oppressed by the spirit of rejection, i pray but nothing seems to work out. I’m a loner and angry. I reject and react with anger on everything.
    It started from birth and so I do not know and can’t imagine what being set-free feels like. My life is nothing but a living hell and not that I dont pray I do, sometimes I don’t even finish a prayer because of being hopeless and burst in to tears.

    • gaylorddiaz said,

      October 5, 2013 at 11:40 AM

      My heart goes out to you. I wish I was close by so that we can talk freely and seek God’s help together. You’re a loner and the devil loves you that way because, with no one to help you, you’re going to have a very difficult time beating him by yourself. You need help. Do you have a Christian friend that you can confide in and who can help you? Is there anyone from a local church who can help you? If you’d like, please email me at Gaylord@gaylordsblog.com and we can at least get an email conversation going to help you along. I’ll keep you in my prayers and ask God to send you the help you need. Nothing and no one is beyond God’s power to help. May God shower you with His love and cause you to know His presence, power, and mighty delivering hand.

  5. RND said,

    November 20, 2018 at 3:21 PM

    I have been seeking love, acceptance and respect for all my life. I know my family cares and loves me however I have never felt a belonging due to these spirits. It has led me to many unhealthy relationships including adultery, I pride myself in not being apart of these sins and based on my values, but desperation is a hell of a thing. These spirits have me tied to a man that isn’t mine and I don’t know how to shake it. I feel so dirty and hopeless but I dont want to be alone

    • gaylorddiaz said,

      January 19, 2019 at 10:08 AM

      Rejection is a tough one, but not impossible to beat. With God’s help, you can be set free. If you’d like me to help you through the process please don’t hesitate to email me. Hang on to God. Hang on to hope.

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